Emma Hayes quoted poetry and said she would follow advice she gave her son on how to avoid playground confrontations when asked on Friday about her touchline spat with Arsenal’s head coach, Jonas Eidevall. Hayes appeared to push Eidevall as they shook hands after Arsenal’s defeat of Chelsea in last month’s Continental League Cup final and accused him of “male aggression” – a comment criticised by the Swede on Friday as “very irresponsible”. “My son said to me after the game: ‘Mummy, when you push someone in school you’re asked to go and take time out.’ And I said to him: ‘You know what darling, you can’t meet aggression with aggression, all you can do is tell the teacher, all you can do is go and explain to the teacher why you think something’s unfair.’ “I said: ‘Even if the players go to the teacher, even if the parents go to the teacher, that’s all you can do. You cannot meet aggression with aggression.’ And I thought it was a really good conversation to have with my son after the final.”

• Hayes quotes poetry and chat with son after Eidevall calls her ‘irresponsible’